If you've been reading long enough (thank you LOYAL readers, friends, family and more!) by now you know I'm a Type A control freak. Especially about my house and keeping things in ORDER. Don't get me wrong. It might not be fully CLEAN ... but it will be TIDY. And in my book ... TIDY makes up a LOT of ground when its too hard to be clean. (note: if I have guests coming, it will be CLEAN & TIDY! NO ONE deserves to see the pee stains from my 3 year old funky stream ... but that's a whole other story!)
This post is really about LUKE.
I really firmly believe in a couple of things. A) God give you only what you can handle. (by the way, the thinks I freaking superwoman.) B) God's timing is perfect. (and SO not on my schedule!!! Type A much?) and C) Luke was specifically chosen for us by the hand of God.
SO WHY IN THE HELL IS GOD TORTURING ME WITH ALL OF LUKE'S PILES?!??!?!!?!?!?!?!?!?!?
Luke doesn't like one particular thing. I would never call him a "Lego kid" although he is great at Legos and does a good job with them. He's just not obsessed with them like my nephews who I'd call, Lego kids. Luke is the kind of kid that like a menagerie of STUFF. Piddly useless items. Pen caps, spare dice, bottle caps, shark teeth (you cannot make this shit up), rubber bands, bullets for toy guns, pieces of floss (I'm not kidding), the paper booklet inserts that come in DVD/Blue Ray cases (he has a particular obsession with these) and MORE.
While there are elements of this I find fascinating and cool ... such as that he uses them to make up stuff and that encourages great imaginative play. MOST OFTEN he just totes them around and expects me to know where everything is AT ALL TIMES. It is a very normal occurrence around here that Luke will ask in a distinctive mean tone "Where is that purple pen cap that went to my Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle pen that broke?" Do you know HOW MANY BRAIN CELLS I'M WASTING on this kind of information!?!??! I went to COLLEGE FOR THIS? And if I do NOT know for some reason and my college degree in misc shit collecting fails me??!? THE WRATH OF HELL is bestowed upon me.
Now I know what you are thinking. How bad can it be? Here is a shot of my ottoman from today after Luke left for school.
Random string, a shark tooth, a magnet from my refrigerator that he claimed as his own, parts from a few games and oh yeah, a domino. THESE ARE IMPORTANT. (to him they are, and I do try to respect that). The problem is that these conspicuous little piles are all over my house. And then at some point I loose my marbles collecting them all and stuffing them somewhere. I usually give him fair warning.
He also hoards things like this in old boxes, containers, gift bags and the like. OH HOW IT DRIVES ME BAT CAGE CRAZY.
I know what you are thinking. Give him his own space for his treasures! YES! I did that. Here is Luke's drawer that lives in our living room for his treasures ....
Yes Denise, that IS your toy from your house that Luke is hoarding as a prize possession. I will get it back to you! When he is bored, frustrated or just looking for something ... I hear him digging in this drawer for something. I'll ask "what are you digging for buddy?" And he responds with something like "that chocolate calculator I got at the book fair 3 weeks ago that needs a battery and I use all the time." Sigh.
Soon the drawer of stuff spilled over and I gathered everything into a basket. Here is what the basket looks like today ...
Oy! This is not Type A ... or B,C,D for that matter. This is Type Luke. I try to understand it but I just don't so I try to honor it in a way that my brain can cope with. Baskets, drawers and boxes for now.
Today I tried to imagine 14 year old Luke. WHOA. What will that guy be like? Will this manifest into something bigger or something different? Will I think fondly and giggly about these little stashes of treasures lying about my house? What will his obsessions be then?
Another one of my fundamental beliefs is this: one day at a time Sara, one day at a time. And today, you live in piles of nonsense that mean nothing to YOU ... but EVERYTHING to him. I know God had a special plan for giving us Luke and I continue to learn new things about him AND MYSELF every single day. :)